No phone calls, please…

Ordinarily, I will not entertain phone calls from organizations looking to solicit. Whether they want me to buy something, donate something or just complete a survey; I generally tell them within the first five seconds that I don’t want them to call me again. This happens just before I hang up on them. I don’t like to be pestered with that stuff, especially night after night. I shit you not, in one night, I received three calls from various deputy’s associations asking me to support their causes, one recorded message from John McCain(I have no idea how he got my number), and another call from some magazine wanting me to renew my subscription. Jesus, people, enough is enough.

On the rare occasion that I allow telemarketers to speak to me, I have been known to tell them that I don’t have enough money to buy a gallon of gas, much less contribute to funding a cause I don’t believe in. That’s always a fun conversation. Tonight, however, I was feeling rather charitable. No pun intended. I received a call from an organization which I fully support, asking me to sign a petition regarding the availability of medication to end pregnancies. I’ve been struggling alot with this issue. As you may or may not know, I have had some difficulty maintaining pregnancies over the years. In fact, I’m coming up on what was to be the due date of our second daughter in just a few weeks and I’ve been having some trouble with it. It didn’t seem like the best time for them to have approached me with this topic, but I stopped myself from snapping at the poor girl on the other end of the line because I realized that my personal feelings about this issue were also affected by another challenge I faced many years ago. When the girl asked me if I would allow them to e-mail me a petition to sign, I was surprised to hear myself saying, “Yes.”

Torn between my feelings about not being able to have another child and having also been the victim of a sexual assault during my early twenties, I found that I had no choice but to say, “Send me the e-mail.” I realized as I thought about her question that as difficult as it has been for me to have a child, I’m not sure I could have lived with becoming pregnant as the result of a rape. I was lucky. Although it has been over fifteen years, if I let myself think too much about what happened I still feel as victimized as if it were happening today. To put it mildly, it’s a terrible thing to have gone through and I sympathize with any woman who has had to make the decision to terminate a pregnancy that was the result of such an attack.

I do not, however, look at terminating pregnancy as an issue to be taken lightly. I have strong opinions, due to my own struggles, about whether or not this is a good idea. It only makes sense that every woman would have her own opinions and concerns about the matter. Depending upon your experience with sex, pregnancy, relationships, children, etc., you’re going to see this issue differently than the woman sitting next to you. The point is, you can’t make this topic fit neatly into anyone’s idea of what is right and wrong. That’s why I let the girl speak and that’s why I ultimately agreed that I would sign this petition. Any woman who has to make this choice, has enough to worry about. They certainly don’t need me working against them on the basis of some standard of morality that I set for myself. That standard simply doesn’t apply to anyone but me. It is my idea of what’s right, of what I could live with.

This post is alot touchier than those I usually put up. After weeks of blogging about the election and our choices in candidates, I was a little worried that readers might think I was getting too mouthy or too politically involved. Well, sorry if that’s your take. I simply believe that it is very important for women to talk about these issues and to take an active role in making the big decisions in their lives. While I enjoy blogging about my writing, I can’t do that honestly without writing about these kinds of topics. They are the types of things that influence and motivate me to write. Without them, it wouldn’t matter.

I still don’t want to be called by solicitors during dinnertime and I definitely don’t want to be pestered to death by recorded phone calls from political candidates. I do however, want to make decisions based on what is best for most people and what makes the most sense outside of what are basically my own personal preferences. I don’t want to be part of a problem that stems mainly from people who are more concerned with protecting their egos than acting in the best interest of people in need. So, now you know. If I’m on your list of people to call, keep this in mind.

Until next time…

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Tales from the fence…

Though I’m a loyal Democrat, I’m intrigued by John McCain’s choice of running mate. McCain announced earlier today that Sarah Palin, Governor of Alaska, will be his pick for Vice President. I think this might have been a great move on McCain’s part and am also thinking that the race is actually going to be interesting to watch. Though I still don’t think I can vote for either candidate in good conscience, McCain’s latest move made me stop to consider whether or not I could actually crossover and vote Republican. Of course, I can’t, but I’ve never even asked myself this question before now.

Governor, Sarah Palin seems to have some very strong credentials including her tendency to be a whistleblower. I admire someone who is willing to stand up for what they believe to be right even when taking such a stand is clearly unpopular. She’s got spunk from what I can see. There are only a few things about her that I can’t get past. Her participation in a beauty pageant, the pro-life thing, and of course, that Republican bit. Otherwise, she seems like a great choice. I think she will do a great job if she is fortunate enough to find herself in the position of being our first female Vice President.

Most people I talk to are still not too optimistic about the outcome of this year’s presidential election. On one hand, we can endure more of the same economic hardship and bullshit that we’ve put up with for the last eight years by electing McCain and hoping that his watchdog V.P. will help keep him in check with regards to any ethical concerns instead of helping him continue the Bush legacy of screwing the little guy. On the other, we have a candidate who is a smooth talker and who seems to have all of the right answers to the questions Americans have been asking for years. The problem is that anyone can provide answers to questions. We need someone who will follow through and make some actual progress. Someone who isn’t suspected of operating under some other agenda.

Unfortunately, there really isn’t a good way to know which is the lesser of two evils until they are actually in office. Once we’re stuck with them, the amount of damage they can do is limited only by the passage of time.

Until next time…

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Contrary to popular belief…

America does not “got talent” and it’s evident on just about any channel you might choose. I tried to watch last night. Emphasis on tried. The show (America’s Got Talent) was so bad that I eventually decided to turn it off in favor of watching a recorded episode of Nickelodeon’s Drake and Josh that I had already seen. Now, that’s bad. Not saying anything bad about Drake and Josh, but really, I hung in there from the extreme clogging to some really goofy looking dude that tried to sing “She Bangs”, but that was all I could handle. How many versions of this terrible song should one person ever have to hear in her lifetime? And what was with the little girl who wanted to be a stunt woman? I wasn’t really impressed with her ability to act like she was beating up those men. Hell, I can act like I’m beating people up. How has this show managed to stay on for so long?

To make matters worse, the whole time I was switching back and forth between this show and the Democratic Convention listening to their discussion about alternative fuels. The whole time, I’m shaking my head because I just don’t believe that we’ll be able to accomplish anything without Hillary Clinton in office. I’m not sure which was hurting me more, being subjected to David Hasselhoff’s lack of wit or listening to a bunch of people who think they have all of the answers, but that’s another post. I actually went to bed by 9:30 for the first time in months.

The contrast between the two shows was not all that clear. On one hand, I’m watching people who think they are doing something spectacular by impersonating Britney (talentless) Spears and on the other, I’m watching people who are trying to convince me to vote in a presidential candidate who won’t even say the Pledge of Allegiance to the United States. And they all think what they are doing is ok. I, obviously don’t. In both cases, they were simply trying to pull the wool over our eyes and make us think that what they are doing makes perfect sense and should be rewarded. My take on this is that no one should be rewarded in any way for acting like Britney Spears and no American citizen should vote for someone who conducts himself in such an unpatriotic manner.

This is an unpopular stand for a Democrat to take, for some reason, unbeknownst to me. Aren’t we supposed to want our president to take pride in being an American? Isn’t this some kind of requirement for taking that office? Granted, he doesn’t have to like it, but shouldn’t he at least go through the motions of acting like he has some respect for those American traditions? What he is saying and doing is sending a clear message to the young people out there that it is ok to buck tradition and to place no value on patriotism if you believe otherwise. How then, will he ever convince them to stand up for our country if he won’t even sing our National Anthem? How does he propose to stand up for the United States if he can’t even get behind those simple principles?

It’s like when you tell your children not to do something and then go and do it yourself. The old, don’t do as I do, do as I say cliche. He’s not even encouraging others not to follow his lead. In fact, he’s counting on the fact that we will follow him. I don’t want to be standing at a baseball game on the day when no one in the crowd is willing to stand for the National Anthem. Not that they will still be playing it at that point, anyway. It’s all very scary to me. If he has no allegiance to our country, then whose side is he really on?

I’ll wrap this up by saying that I feel that my participation in last night’s viewership has cost me valuable brain cells and I want my money back. See, I’m not even sure why I said that. God knows I wouldn’t have paid to see any of that stuff. Not willingly anyway.

Until next time…

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WTF, Brooke? Random expressions of disgust…

I have never been so not proud of a woman in my life as when I heard Brooke Hogan’s perspective on why a woman shouldn’t be running for president. She has clearly suffered some sort of damage to her cerebral cortex at some point along the way. I’m not sure what she was thinking or even, if she was thinking when she said, “I think that it’s kind of crazy that a woman is running…” What a dope?

People like Brooke are part of the big problem in this country today. They don’t think past what they are wearing and who’s going to be at this party tonight or whether or not their butt looks good in shorts. Airheads, morons, and idiots. We’re full up, thank you. Could you send us some of those people who actually think before they speak? We’ll pay at least bottom dollar for those.

Geez…for God’s sake, people…take a few moments and watch the movie, Idiocracy. It will scare the shit out of you and make you wonder why people like Brooke are being given an audience at all.

Until next time…stay away from wheat grass…and the Red Bull…and all that kind of crap…

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Hillary Obama Roadshow-Posted for Nikki Leigh’s Ethnic Presidency Blog Blitz

There were also mixed signals if whether being a woman would help more than hurt Clinton even with women in a wide segment of America. In a Newsweek poll in July 2007, fewer voters said they would vote for a woman candidate for president than a black candidate. Hillary scored just as dismal when asked whether the country was ready for a female president. More said no to this question than said no for a black president. The gender reluctance by big chunks of voters was in part offset by the experience factor. Hillary scored big on this in the polls.

The Hillary distaste in part explained why in February 2007 Hollywood mogul David Geffen, a long time Clinton family cheerleader and campaign bankroller sucker punched Clinton with the knock that she would polarize voters. The implication was that she would be a disaster for the Democrats if she were to get the party presidential bid. Geffen rapped Clinton at the moment that he and some other Hollywood movie big shots pumped a reported cool million dollars into Obama’s campaign coffers.

At the same moment, a slew of conservative hit groups loudly announced they had sunk loads of cash into a pack of “stop Hillary” websites, muckraking pieces and scheduled attack ads on her. They vowed this was just the start of a freewheeling, no holds barred disinformation effort to sabotage her campaign.

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She’s baaaack! And she’s hoppin’ mad!

Hello, all. Sorry I’ve been away for a while. I’ve been struggling with several things including a rather nasty bout with morning sickness. I simply haven’t had access to my brain cells for the past few weeks. Thankfully, a glimmer of coherence has presented itself and I’ve decided to give blogging another shot.

Yes, you heard right. Although I didn’t really want to say much about this until we’re sure everything is ok, I’m expecting our second child in late September. We’ve had some problems in the past with miscarriages and so forth, so please keep us in your thoughts as we pray for a healthy baby to join us this fall.

Today, I have a few things to say about the election. Like everyone else, I was all geared up to get out and vote for my candidate, Hillary Clinton. I was extremely disgusted to find out that my registration, which I filled out sometime last year was never turned in to the Board of Elections. Unfortunately, I didn’t find out about this until it was too late to do anything about it. And so, I couldn’t vote today. Talk about pissed. I’m sure there was steam rolling out of my ears. In fact, there might still be a little puff coming out here and there.

This discovery led me to wonder how many others had the same problem. It almost has me a little paranoid. Did someone lose it on purpose? Was the booth I registered at plagued by crazy, little Republican trolls who sought out my registration form and tucked it away, never to be seen again by the BOE? Who knows? All I know is that I made it a point to register early so that I would be ready and here I sit unable to vote. This was a big day for women to get out there and make their statement. We need Hillary in the White House. She’s been there before and if the truth is known, she’s responsible for much of the good that came out of the Clinton administration. I’m a big fan of Bill Clinton, but we all know that behind every good man, there’s an even better woman. 😉

Since I can’t vote today, I figure the least I can do is to state my position here on the blog. Ladies, it’s time to get Hillary back into the White House. We need this. Women have been taken for granted for too long and it is definitely our time to shine. We have a highly qualified, intelligent, motivated woman who can do this country some real good and we need to show her our support. I have filled out my new registration form and will be mailing it today. I will also be calling the BOE every month to make sure that they have me on the list. I’ll not miss another opportunity to vote. I just hope that I’m voting for the first female president when I go. If you haven’t already, get out and vote for Hillary. If not for yourself, do it for our daughters.

Until next time…